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Friday, June 4, 2010

Embrace aging


I had been telling my children that my memory seemed deteriorating quite sharply recently; I couldn't remember events that had just happened one or two days ago; I couldn't recall where I had kept my things; I had forgotten how to write/spell a lot of words..... .

"Oh, that's just sign of aging. It is perfectly normal.... " They would console me and at the same time reminded me that I was no longer as young as I thought myself to be.

Clearly, aging has made its appearance in my life; so it is not just "loss of memory", it is "loss of youth" that I am facing! "Loss of memory" is merely a subset of "loss of youth" if I were to use set theory to explain (thank God, I still remember set theory! ). Well, don't tell me further what are the other elements in this set of "loss of youth" as I already know that all of them would begin with the four letters word - "loss"!

Fearful of aging? I can't say "No". On and off, I think of dementia, Alzheimer diseases, etc.

On the other hand, my husband who is two years older than me has quite a different perspective on aging. His "theory" is since we can't possibly predict what is our own journey ahead, it is no point preoccupying our mind with unnecessary and unfruitful thoughts; we should be thinking of how best to spend the "limited" time we have in hand. 

Yes, I should be thinking of what I can do now that will take root in my children; I should be thinking of doing something that will outlast me; I should be thinking of pursuing my unfulfilled dreams that most probably would bring me joy ......

No doubt I can't bring back the bygone days of my youth, but I certainly can bring back the same joy felt in my youth.









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