I didn't know my stress was directly related to the many"changes"( new job, new home...) that had taken place in my life. All seemed to be coming together and I really had no idea how to face all these myself!
I was depressed. But Life must move on ..... . I had to look for a way out.
Only later that I learnt to be able to deal with our "stress", we had to begin with the "changes" we encountered.
Only later that I learnt to be able to deal with our "stress", we had to begin with the "changes" we encountered.
Life is eventful. There's bound to be changes all the time. Whether we like it or not, it's often interweaven with unavoidable events like death of loved ones, new jobs, moving house, new baby, new maid etc. We can't, and no one can, escape from these "changes" in life! Thus feeling stressful, some time or other in life is something quite natural.
Therefore we should acknowledge that "stress" is part and parcel of life and take "combating stress" as a ongoing life-long process!
To be "stress-free" may not be easy; we must be able to adjust ourselves to ADAPT to CHANGES that crop out every now and then in our lives. And more importantly, be in control of the new situation that we are in. This is the "secret weapon" in combating stress.
To be "stress-free" may not be easy; we must be able to adjust ourselves to ADAPT to CHANGES that crop out every now and then in our lives. And more importantly, be in control of the new situation that we are in. This is the "secret weapon" in combating stress.
Is it that simple ? Can we really adjust ourselves to all the changes, irrespective of how drastic it may be and keep everything within our control? And is it possible at all times?
No, of course not.
No, of course not.
What about situations that are beyond our control? How to free oneself then from being feeling "stressed out" in this case? The "best answer" is to let go of what we can't control.
A friend of mine was under great stress because the daughter was fighting hard to move out with the boy-friend whom the parents didn't approved. The mother tried hard to control the situation, but failed. She was hurt and depressed when the situation went out of her control. How did she get herself over this trauma? She told me that she just let go the whole issue since there's nothing she could do further. After all the daughter was old enough to decide for herself and to face whatever consequences that may follow. By "letting go" the control and got adjusted with the changes, she felt relief.
A friend of mine was under great stress because the daughter was fighting hard to move out with the boy-friend whom the parents didn't approved. The mother tried hard to control the situation, but failed. She was hurt and depressed when the situation went out of her control. How did she get herself over this trauma? She told me that she just let go the whole issue since there's nothing she could do further. After all the daughter was old enough to decide for herself and to face whatever consequences that may follow. By "letting go" the control and got adjusted with the changes, she felt relief.
So when you are seriously stressed out, just remember these two points: either try to make necessary adjustments to be in control of the situation or just let go the control if it's situation that is totally impossible to control.
This theory works though it may be easier said than done.
This theory works though it may be easier said than done.
