My eldest boy was an avid reader. At four, he had already read a lot of story books. He loved those stories with happy endings where the prince married the princess and they lived happily ever after.
His imagination was good and he could figure out how nice it was to be a prince, and then a King, to the extend that he felt very sad one day.
His imagination was good and he could figure out how nice it was to be a prince, and then a King, to the extend that he felt very sad one day.
"Papa is not a King , so I can't be a King later to live happily ever after........" he was sad and he almost cried...
"We could be happy being anybody, not necessarily a King. Not anybody in the world could be a King. So just be ourselves and be happy whoever you are. " I consoled him, not knowing he understood or not at that age....
As time went by, he forgot about this question and never asked about it again.
When my youngest boy was about six, he also read some of these books that his elder brother had read before. I recalled the incident. I was curious what would be his thoughts then? So I asked him the same question.
In short, the perception of a child and the fundamentals on which they build their thoughts on are greatly influenced by the kind of exposures provided and examples set by the parents. This is something that we being parents often overlook and fail in leading by example.
When my youngest boy was about six, he also read some of these books that his elder brother had read before. I recalled the incident. I was curious what would be his thoughts then? So I asked him the same question.
" Do you ever think of being a King ?"
"That's the last thing I want to be because 'they always got killed'. It's terrible to be a King!" He said.
What had prompted him to have such thought which differed so much from that of his brother?
The interesting explanation would make you laugh! It was because the younger boy had been watching some Chinese dramas on TV with me and these drama stories were mostly on the power struggle in the palace where in most cases, the emperor was finally assassinated.
"That's the last thing I want to be because 'they always got killed'. It's terrible to be a King!" He said.
What had prompted him to have such thought which differed so much from that of his brother?
The interesting explanation would make you laugh! It was because the younger boy had been watching some Chinese dramas on TV with me and these drama stories were mostly on the power struggle in the palace where in most cases, the emperor was finally assassinated.
Clearly, the development of a child's perception is greatly influenced by his exposures.
In short, the perception of a child and the fundamentals on which they build their thoughts on are greatly influenced by the kind of exposures provided and examples set by the parents. This is something that we being parents often overlook and fail in leading by example.
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